Does she truly love you?
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One thing that women and men have in common when it comes to love is the fear of their feelings being unreciprocated. For men, women seem to be almost impossible to understand the way their minds work is a mystery. With all of the complex emotions that people can have, it can be hard to know how a woman truly feels about you.
A lot of people say that women fall in love faster than men do. But that’s not necessarily true, men and women just fall in love differently and experience and show it in different ways.
So how can you know whether or not her feelings for you are genuine? There are some subtle giveaways to pay attention to and here are a few signs that she truly does love.
1. She Wants To Know Everything About You
A woman who loves you will want to know everything about you. Even the smallest details that might not seem important to you, she’ll want to know.
After a while, this may get annoying since men, in general, aren’t too keen on sharing their feelings. But women often see sharing your hopes dreams fears details about your life as an indication that you care. She wants to know about your world because she wants to be a part of it. She wants to know even the little details to make you feel like she knows you and that she’ll stand by you.
2. Her Maternal Instincts Kick In
This is simply human nature at work.
Men are naturally protective of people they care about while women are naturally nurturing. It’s instinctual for both.
These instincts can be controlled and toned down. But all it means when she starts acting motherly toward you and genuinely making sure you’re well is that she loves you.
3. Encourages and Supports You in Reaching Your Dreams
When you love someone, you want them to be as happy and successful as they can be. So when your woman loves you, she’ll push you to reach your dreams and achieve your goals.
She wants you to be truly happy, and she will encourage you even when you’re unsure of yourself. She will always do her best to help and support you in your endeavors.
4. Stays With You in Your Darkest Times
During hard times, she works even harder to help you keep up your self-esteem. Loving you means knowing you and when she knows you she believes you’re a good person and believes in you and won’t abandon you at your worst.
Instead, she’ll help you get back on your feet and rediscover your worth. True love sticks through thick and thin.
5. Goes Out of Her Way to Make You Smile
She puts in that little bit of extra effort to let you know that she cares whether it’s showing up to the office for a surprise visit or texting you to see how you’re doing. She may even try to dazzle you with tickets to see your favorite band or prepare a meal for you after a long day.
Just a bunch of things to make you smile and show that she loves you.
6. Accepts You as You Are
A strong indicator that a woman truly loves you is if she accepts you the way you are both your strengths and weaknesses. She knows that you’re not perfect. No one is and she understands that you make mistakes.
Loving you means she can try and help you grow as a person while forgiving your imperfection.
7. Tries to Get Closer to Your Loved Ones
She always shows respect for the people you care about because she knows they’re important to you.
Being accepted by your loved ones is something she strives for. She’ll do her best to act accordingly around them and treasure their happiness as you do.
They mean a lot to you. So she’ll make sure they mean a lot to her as well.
8. She’s Vulnerable With You
Spending time together, and having conversations about things that make you vulnerable helps create a strong bond and vulnerability to feel different for everyone. Some topics that make her feel vulnerable differ from yours, whether it’s about work friends, or family.
Sharing parts of yourself that are usually kept hidden takes a lot of energy and strength. She wouldn’t do so unless she trusted you and had real feelings for you.
9. Trusts You with the Deepest, Darkest Parts of Her Past
If she’s willing to talk about darker parts of her past, chances are she wants a future. Everyone has some sort of baggage but someone telling you about it is different than you just knowing it’s there sharing the dark parts of yourself as someone adds to your bond.
So if she talks to you about them, she trusts you and has a special place for you in her heart.
10. She Does Not Take You for Granted
Another way your girl shows her love for you is by appreciating everything you do for her.
She never forgets to tell you she’s thankful. No matter how small the gesture. She knows you have needs and feelings and doesn’t waste your efforts. Also, she wouldn’t try to embarrass you in front of others either. No matter the mistake.
11. She Is Your Best Friend Advisor
She’ll try and give you the best advice she can when you have a problem. She’s someone you can count on to be there, stand by your side, and fight for you. In return, she’ll rely on you for the same thing. Listening to the opinions and advice you give her.
12. She Shows You Her Priority
While you are a priority to her, this doesn’t mean she’ll put you above all of her friends and family right away. But she will make sure to take into account the relationship you have and your feelings.
She will invite you along for a family dinner, or make sure to let you know when she goes out with friends.
It isn’t asking your permission, and that shouldn’t be something you expect. But if you need her, you can trust that she’ll be there for you.
9 Psychological Signs A Woman Loves You
#4. Multiple Glances
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1. Looks at You Whenever She Laughs
If a girl is interested in you, she will most likely look at you first when you’re in a group of friends and everyone starts laughing.
The psychological and biological reasoning behind this telltale sign is that she’s genuinely interested in your reaction and wants to see if you thought it was funny too.
She wants to evaluate you and is still making some conscious judgments on what you think is funny and how you too will function together as a pair. She may look at a different person each time something is funny, but if she sways towards you, she’s interested. However, be careful of watching for her reactions, where she might be curious if you’re looking at her too, and things can get awkward quickly.
2. Dilated Pupils
When someone sees something they are psychologically attracted to, their pupils will physiologically increase in the size three times to allow more light so that they can further observe the attractive stimulus.
She likes you and wants to take all of you in, and to do so her eye’s muscle is much more light and so her pupils will dilate.
It may be hard to see this from afar but if you can offer her something or ask her a question, make sure to pay close attention to her pupils before and after looking at you, as other things can cause dilated pupils beforehand such as sunlight, and alcohol. Notice the change not just the size of the pupils.
3. Pointed Feet
Whenever you’re in a conversation with her look and see where her feet or toes are pointed.
If they’re pointed toward you, it’s a good sign. Body language is a huge indicator of attraction. And most of the time these are unconscious signs that are hard to duplicate consciously or to create a false positive. If she feels safe around you and opens toward you, her feet and torso will show especially in a group of more than five people.
If her body is open to specifically showing you more than two of the signs. She’s interested in you.
4. Multiple Glances
One lens can mean anything two lenses mean she’s curious and any more can signify that she’s attracted to you.
Watch for her across the room and see if she keeps checking in on you. It’s probably because she’s attracted to you. She doesn’t want to lose the opportunity to be near you or talk to you.
5. Touch Their Lips All The Time
If she touches her lips when she’s around you or she’s looking at you this is a good sign.
If she looks at your lips, however, then it is a great sign. This is usually done subconsciously in a matter of milliseconds. But a glance on your lips surely means she’s attracted to psychological matters.
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6. Plays With Her Hair When Looking At You
While she’s talking to you she may play with her hair.
This may be turned both ways though, as some say could be a sign that she wants to be away from you and wants to find comfort. If she’s playing with it and her palm is pointing toward you, she probably feels safe, which is a good thing.
If she’s fixing it up to make it look better, she’s probably attracted to even mature attention and this is also a good thing.
However, if she pulls it up away from her neck, this can mean two different things. She could be showing you that she feels safe and is doing so by allowing you to see what are the most important parts or she could be doing it as stress and thereby temperature has risen and then she wants to get away. But if she’s truly attracted, she’ll be back.
7. Talks About You With Her Friends
This one is important.
If she talks about you with her friends. I mean she’s cognitively thinking on a level that isn’t subconscious, which means that she’s aware of her attraction for you and has already started debating on whether or not to act on it. Try to talk to her friends casually and see if she says anything.
If you do this with someone you’re not comfortable with it may seem like you’re probing and asking questions about her. When she hears about this from her friends, she will go nuts. Of course, they may lie and say that she hasn’t said anything and they might also say that she has, even though she has one of these tips.
8. She Accidentally Touches You
Accidental touching has huge psychological value.
You can tell if it’s accidental or not by just using common sense. Was she should making a job out of being next to you or was she simply walking by you and accidentally bumping.
Also if it happens more than once and she apologizes about it more than she probably should. It might mean that she isn’t doing it on purpose and doesn’t want to come off creepy.
9. Gets Nervous Around You
You kind of have to be around for more than a couple of times to start noticing her behavior and see if she gets nervous around you.
Remember in middle school when you could always talk to people who liked each other by just the way they acted, that familiar awkwardness that so many of us pushed to never look back on?
If it was two people who had no attraction to each other, the awkwardness signs weren’t there unless they were both just awkward, which is describing my entire middle school experience.
But really if she gets nervous around you is probably a sign of attraction, and she doesn’t want to mess up a future with you. If she doesn’t care about a future with you, she probably won’t be nervous.
6 Signs Someone Loves You but Is Afraid Of Rejection
Get to know your secret crush
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Have you ever felt like someone lied to you? Only to find that they pull away right when you were emotionally connecting?
Maybe they were giving you mixed signals, or maybe you have a hunch they might be afraid of rejection.
For many, the fear of rejection prevents them from progressing emotionally into a relationship. Many psychologists theorize that when one goes through negative experiences, their feelings of love and fear can become connected.
Seeing that research studies are backing this theory, you might not be off and thinking that your date might be hesitant going into a new relationship due to a past heartbreak.
So how can you tell? Well, here are six signs someone likes you but is afraid of rejection.
1. They’re nervous around you
When most people like someone, they can become a little nervous.
Stammering, breaking out in sweats and clammy hands may be signs that they liked you so much, that you make them nervous. Attraction can even make us a bit dumb sometimes.
Research has found that sexual arousal shuts off parts of the prefrontal cortex of the brain, this region of the brain is responsible for critical thinking, rational behavior, and self-awareness.
So if you have a hunch they’re afraid of rejection and can’t quite tell if they like you. Next time you hold their hand, if it is uncomfortably clammy. It looks like it’s love.
2. They do dorky things in an attempt to impress you
So you still can’t tell if they like you, huh?
Well, do you find that they make random attempts to impress you every chance they get?
If someone likes you, odds are they’ll try to make it a point to show off what makes them a suitable partner. Or they simply want to impress you because that means you’ll notice them.
If their attempts are more toward you than impressive, they’re really trying to get you to notice them.
They may be afraid to flat-out tell you they like you.
3. They want to spend time with you, but then suddenly disappear
A telltale sign they’re afraid of rejection.
When they start getting emotionally close to you, they pull away suddenly.
Your conversations are near-daily, you text each other good morning and good night. But then suddenly they start to become busy and seemingly disappear. They may be trying to see if you’re as interested as them. But if you start to drift away in a reaction as well, they often will come back to check on you.
Why? Because as much as they fear rejection, they still can’t help but care about you.
4. They talk about you to the important people in their lives
If you’ve heard from the important people in their life that they can’t stop talking about you. Odds are they like you if they mentioned or even introduced you to their family.
They may even want things to get serious but are a bit hesitant due to the fear of rejection in the future.
5. They go out of their way to do things for you but don’t like to talk about their feelings
Some people have trouble expressing their feelings and fears. Some may believe that expressing their feelings or fears will only drive their spouse away.
One of the most important aspects of a relationship is communication, if your partner shies away from talking about their feelings but you notice they go out of their way to do things for you. They are likely like you.
Those who don’t often express their feelings, show them through their actions. So could you pay attention to what they do? If they show they care for you, they likely like you.
6. They listen and remember what you say
Can you tell if your partner listens to you?
If you notice that they actively listen to what you say and remember details about your conversation later on. They’re probably interested in you.
When we care about someone we want to hear how their day was or listen in on their interest. If your spouse brings up previous conversations or details about something you’ve said you’re likely on their mind.
If they like you what’s holding them back? If its rejection, here’s to hoping their fears will melt away when you tell them you like them, like really like them. That is if they listen.
Do you recognize any of these signs in your partner or crush?
How will you let them know you like them?
6 Undeniable Signs Someone Truly Loves You Without Saying It
# 6. They say ‘I Love You’
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Can you instantly tell when you’re in love?
That moment of realization for some happens in an instant and you’ve suddenly realized you’re in love. Often love is simmering on the back burner of our minds without us even realizing it.
Each lovely interaction, genuine phrase, or sweet conversation is another seed planted in our little love gardens. Then before you know it, you have a whole gazebo of love. Now you may know if you love someone, but how can you tell if your partner loves you?
Well, they could just tell you, yeah, that would certainly help matters. But in case you both haven’t yet spoken those three sacred words, or perhaps you’re too scared to.
Here is a list of things someone just can’t help but do if they really like you.
1. They’d rather call you than text
Would you rather text or call?
In today’s busy world, a simple yet thoughtful text can go a long way when the work is piled high and you simply just don’t have the time. But more often when someone loves you, they can’t wait to hear your voice again. A quick text or two won’t do.
The truth is your partner is likely really starting to fall for you if they favor calling you than the easy text message or what’s always better is talking in person.
2. They stop by to talk in person
If you love someone wouldn’t you want to spend time with that person any chance you get? If your partner surprises you by stopping out to eat with you during their lunch break every now and then. Or knocks at your door for a surprise visit.
They may just love you so much that they can’t wait to see you again.
3. They give you their full attention in a conversation
People multitask, that’s the thing. A pretty stressful thing at times.
But quite relaxing if you have the right music. If your partner is constantly scanning their social media feed when talking to you, or only has time to talk with you during their last match of Halo, they may not be ready to say those three vital words yet.
When we love someone we’re attentive when we need to talk about serious topics, even not-so-serious topics. You enjoy focusing on the one you love and being their focus too.
You value their opinion and the things they have to say. But first and foremost, you listen and pay attention to your partner, not the scoreboard.
4. They want to create special moments with you
AKA road trip.
Don’t you just love going on special little trips with your loved ones or perhaps spending the day at a unique place that means something to the two of you?
When we love someone, we scavenge and hoard beautiful memories whenever possible. You’ll often find yourself on weekend road trips to pack on the memories or spend the day picnicking at a beautiful spot that means something to both of you.
Whatever your thing is if you love someone you want to create special memories with them, not just the same old, same old. While the usual routine can be fine at times, who doesn’t want to take the person they love somewhere special?
But hey, odds are, those three magical words will be said for the first time simply by hanging out on the couch or at your home. And if you love the person, you’ll even turn the regular into a special.
5. They’re there for you when you need them
Does your partner reach out to you? Do they genuinely care and ask how you are?
Can they sense when something isn’t right? Or do they often ignore it?
It all comes down to this, are they there for you? There for you? This one should be obvious.
And if your someone special isn’t there for you when you need them most, then boy, do we have a problem.
If you love someone you want to help them through their darkest times because you care about what they’re going through. While some simply can’t read the signs that you weren’t, they should at least be there to listen to you or care enough to ask every now and then. And if you reach out to them, they should make sure to be there and listen. Not just through text, they’ll call you or surprise you with a visit. Remember points one and two.
6. They say I love you
Of course, saying I love you would be an obvious sign. But here’s the thing, sometimes love can fade in people’s relationships.
If your partner no longer tells you they love you, there may be a chance the heart has moved on. Sometimes it may have never been there in the first place, sometimes they love you too soon misjudging their feelings.
When we love someone, we tend to enjoy telling them. They like to remind you every now and then, like hey, I love you. It makes you, and feel happy and well-loved.
If you know you love them, and they often do the things mentioned above, it’s best to stop and ask yourself what’s holding you back. Because if you love someone, why wouldn’t you tell them?
We hope we were able to give you insight into some of the ways you can tell if someone truly loves you.
Do any of these signs describe your special someone?